H.A.V.E.N. Update
By Cathleen Osborne-Gowey (Program Admin – Crime Victim Advocate) 918.554.2836 or COsbornegowey@estoo.net
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Hello all –
By the time you read this our two new staff members will have joined our team. Look for a proper introduction to them both next month.
In this month’s article we’re focusing on Teen Violence/Dating Awareness month (which was in February). In honor of Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, our Outreach Manager (Tracie Delano) had the privilege of helping to facilitate “Man Up” a local program for Ottawa County and Craig County high school boys. “Man Up” is grassroots organization developed to provide our youth with reliable information, offer connections to community resources and to show them that they are living in a community that cares about them and their future.
February was Teen Violence Dating Awareness Month
Have you talked to the teens in your life (kids, grandkids, nieces, and nephews) about healthy relationships? Do they know what’s healthy and what’s not? Do they know the warning signs of an abusive relationship? Do you?
“Relationships may be defined in different ways depending on who’s involved, but healthy relationships all depend on a few key elements: healthy communication, healthy boundaries, mutual respect, and support for one another. Check in with each other’s needs regularly while also giving each other space and privacy and be sure to keep an eye out for the warning signs of dating abuse”. (loveisrespect.org)
It’s so important to make sure that we and our teens understand what the warning signs of dating abuse look. Here are a few of the signs – do you notice any of these things happening in your teen’s relationship? Have you seen your teen check their boyfriend or girlfriend’s social media accounts? Have you noticed your teen worrying that their partner’s temper? Take time this month and talk with your teen.
Warning Signs:
- Checking your phone, email, or social media accounts without your permission.
- Putting you down frequently, especially in front of others.
- Isolating you from friends or family (physically, financially, or emotionally).
- Extreme jealousy or insecurity.
- Explosive outbursts, temper, or mood swings.
- Any form of physical harm.
- Possessiveness or controlling behavior.
- Pressuring you or forcing you to have sex.
Abusive relationships are all about power and control. While your teen may be unwilling or unable to leave their relationship right now, it’s important that they know that abusive partners are unlikely to change their behavior. You and your teens first priority should always be personal safety.
Contact Haven to discuss your teen’s situation and to identify possible signs of an unhealthy or abusive relationships.
Information for this article was made possible by loveisrespect.org, check out their website for more information.
Haven Office Hours: 8:30 am – 4:30 pm Monday – Friday
HAVEN Does NOT provide 24- hour service. After hours please call:
StrongHearts Native Helpline https://strongheartshelpline 1-844-762-8483 (call or text) or Community Crisis Center, Miami, OK 1-800-400-0883
StrongHearts and Community Crisis Center have 24 hour service
Please call the HAVEN office during business hours for more information.
918-554-2836 or Text Line: 918.533.3070
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