Hello and happy Friday-
This week our FYI is focused on what domestic violence is and how to identify the common signs of domestic violence. Often, it comes in subtle ways we don’t realize that build over time.
What is domestic violence:
Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior that occurs between family members and/or intimate partners. The perpetrator uses violence against intimate partners to gain power and control over them. Intimate partners can include your current or former husband or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend, your child’s mother or father, or a partner who you live with or used to live with. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, psychological, or economic abuse. It occurs in every country, in every neighborhood, and among people of all races, cultures, religions, and income levels. It can happen to you no matter how old you are, whether you are male, female, or gender non-binary, and no matter what your sexual orientation is. (https://www1.nyc.gov/site/nycha/residents/domestic-violence.page
Information from the thehotline.org website (https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/domestic-abuse-warning-signs/)
Common Signs of Domestic Violence:
- Telling you that you never do anything right.
- Showing extreme jealousy of your friends or time spent away from them.
- Preventing or discouraging you from spending time with friends, family members, or peers.
- Insulting, demeaning, or shaming you, especially in front of other people.
- Preventing you from making your own decisions, including about working or attending school.
- Controlling finances in the household without discussion, including taking your money or refusing to provide money for necessary expenses.
- Pressuring you to have sex or perform sexual acts you’re not comfortable with.
- Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol.
- Intimidating you through threatening looks or actions.
- Insulting your parenting or threatening to harm or take away your children or pets.
- Intimidating you with weapons like guns, knives, bats, or mace.
- Destroying your belongings or your home.
Even one or two of these behaviors in a relationship is a red flag that abuse may be present.
Remember – YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
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