H.A.V.E.N. Update
By Cathleen Osborne-Gowey (Program Admin – Crime Victim Advocate) 918.554.2836 or COsbornegowey@estoo.net
Upcoming Events:
Support Group will now be IN PERSON: Please call our office for details.
Program Update:
Hello all –
We’re deep in the heart of winter – it’s cold and we’re stuck inside more. However, being inside more, especially with those we care about, can be a good thing. We can spend time together, talk, and notice the small things that perhaps we’d miss in an otherwise busy time. If you have teens in your life, as I do, it’s a good time to chat with them about their friends and relationships -maybe over a cup of coffee and or a game of cards. This month, in our article, we’re focusing on how to talk to your teens about teen dating violence. Did you know, according to LoveisRespect, “1 in 3 U.S. teens will experience physical, sexual, or emotional abuse from someone they’re in a relationship with before they become adults”. That’s a lot of teens! Please read the article below, grab a cup of coffee/cocoa/tea and talk to your teen. It could be one of the most beneficial conversations you ever have with them.
February is Teen Violence Dating Awareness Month
Have you talked to the teens in your life (kids, grandkids, nieces, and nephews) about healthy relationships? Do they know what’s healthy and what’s not? Do they know the warning signs of an abusive relationship? Do you?
“Relationships may be defined in different ways depending on who’s involved, but healthy relationships all depend on a few key elements: healthy communication, healthy boundaries, mutual respect, and support for one another. Check in with each other’s needs regularly while also giving each other space and privacy and be sure to keep an eye out for the warning signs of dating abuse”. (loveisrespect.org)
It’s so important to make sure that we and our teens understand what the warning signs of dating abuse look. Here are a few of the signs – do you notice any of these things happening in your teens relationship? Have you seen your teen check their boyfriend or girlfriends social media accounts? Have you noticed your teen worrying that their partner temper? Take time this month and talk with your teen.
Warning Signs:
- Checking your phone, email, or social media accounts without your permission.
- Putting you down frequently, especially in front of others.
- Isolating you from friends or family (physically, financially, or emotionally).
- Extreme jealousy or insecurity.
- Explosive outbursts, temper, or mood swings.
- Any form of physical harm.
- Possessiveness or controlling behavior.
- Pressuring you or forcing you to have sex.
Abusive relationships are all about power and control. While your teen may be unwilling or unable to leave their relationship right now, it’s important that they know that abusive partners are unlikely to change their behavior. You and your teens first priority should always be personal safety.
Contact Haven to discuss your teen’s situation and to identify possible signs of an unhealthy or abusive relationships.
Haven Office Hours: 8:30 am – 4:30 pm Monday – Friday
HAVEN Does NOT provide 24- hour service. After hours please call:
StrongHearts Native Helpline https://strongheartshelpline 1-844-762-8483 (call or text) or Community Crisis Center, Miami, OK 1-800-400-0883
StrongHearts and Community Crisis Center have 24 hour service
HAVEN is a tribal advocacy program offering support for all victims of crime, specifically domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking. We serve all ESTOO tribal members REGARDLESS of where they live and local community members within Ottawa County and the cities of Vinita, Jay, Grove OK and Seneca, MO.
Please call the HAVEN office during business hours for more information.
918-554-2836 or Text Line: 918.533.3070
Program Website: https://havenprogram.com/
Program Email: havenprogram@estoo.net
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