H.A.V.E.N. Update
By Cathleen Osborne-Gowey (Program Admin – Crime Victim Advocate) 541.602.0616 or COsbornegowey@estoo.net
Upcoming Events:
Support Group: Due to the recent increases in local COVID cases our support group and events will be held either virtually or outside. Please call our office for details.
Jan 9th – Law Enforcement Appreciation Day – We’ll be sharing Comfort Kits
Jan 24-28th Student Health Fair – Northeast Tech College and Career Fair Afton Campus
Program Update:
Hello all –
Winter is here and we hope you all had a safe and warm holiday. New years often brings a time of reflection, a time to make resolutions and change unhealthy habits in our lives. For many, it can be a time when they resolve to leave an unhealthy relationship or think about talking to a friend who they worry is in an unhealthy relationship.
In this month’s article we’re going back to basics; what are the warning signs that a relationship might be unhealthy, and what services Haven can help with.
Warning Signs of Abuse
Article Featured on the National Domestic Violence Hotline Website – Warning Signs of Abuse Know What to Look for. https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/domestic-abuse-warning-signs/
“At the start of a new relationship, it’s not always easy to tell if it will later become abusive. In fact, many abusive people appear like ideal partners in the early stages of a relationship. Possessive and controlling behaviors don’t always appear overnight and may emerge and intensify as the relationship grows.
Every relationship is different and domestic violence doesn’t always look the same. One feature shared by most abusive relationships is that the abusive partner tries to establish or gain power and control through many different methods, at different moments.
Common Signs of Abusive Behavior in a Partner Include:
(Even one or two of these behaviors in a relationship is a red flag that abuse may be present)
- Telling you that you never do anything right
- Showing extreme jealousy of your friends or time spent away from them
- Preventing or discouraging you from spending time with friends, family members, or peers
- Insulting, demeaning, or shaming you, especially in front of other people
- Preventing you from making your own decisions, including about working or attending school
- Controlling finances in the household without discussion, including taking your money or refusing to provide money for necessary expenses
- Pressuring you to have sex or perform sexual acts you’re not comfortable with
- Pressuring you to use drugs or alcohol
- Intimidating you through threatening looks or acts
- Insulting your parenting or threating to harm or take away your children or pets
- Intimidating you with weapons like guns, knives, bats, or mace
- Destroying your belongings or your home”
If you have questions about your relationship, want to leave, or have questions about a relationship of someone you know – Haven advocates are here to listen and if needed – connect you with services.
Services Haven Provides
- Advocacy
- Domestic Violence Advocacy
- Sexual Assault Advocacy
- Victim of Crime Advocacy
- Legal Advocacy
- Emergency Assistance for all Current Victims of Crime (crime within the past 6 months)
- Transitional Housing Program
- Legal Services
- Counseling Services
Remember, we provide advocacy and services to all Eastern Shawnee, regardless of where they live, and our local community within a 50-mile radius of our office.
If you have questions Haven advocates are always here to listen and help you walk through a safety plan. Also, the National Domestic Hotline (https://www.thehotline.org/) has advocates available 24 hours a day (7 days a week) to talk to you about your relationship, whether that’s identifying abusive behaviors or helping you find safety.
If you are able, please call or see the messaging links above:
Haven Office: 918-554-2836
Text Line: 918.533.3070
Crime Victim Advocate: 541.602.0616
Program Website: https://havenprogram.com/
Program Email: havenprogram@estoo.net
Facebook: HAVEN Tribal Program, Twitter: @ProgramHaven, Instagram: HAVENTRIBALProgram.
Our advocates are here to help!
